Put a guy and a girl in the same room together or on the same page and I'll dream up a story to make the heart flutter. It's part of my DNA. But it can also be a bit of a curse. Between the wedding pictures on Pinterest and the sweet romance novels crowding my bookshelves, it can become so easy to over-focused on what every girl ultimately wants: to fall in love, marry Prince Charming and live happily ever after.
None of these things are wrong, don't get me wrong, but when the fairy tale because an obsessive pursuit, that's when things need to be reevaluated. When any frog could be "the" Prince--even the ones that have played around in the mud a little too much, a pause needs to be made.
Being a hopeless romantic is fun. The world tends to always have a rosy glow about it, but when rosy becomes deceiving, passion for finding our one true love needs to take a backseat.
Maybe this has been you: you're introduced to a cute, tall (hello, he has to be taller than you, right??), intelligent young man. You're mind starts spinning all kinds of scenarios and suddenly between the first and second conversation you've got the wedding planned. The flowers picked out. Where you're going to spend your honeymoon and what you'll name your children. Yep, been there, lived that.
Marriage is the biggest decision of our lives, the most important interview we will ever have. While it's fun to dream about the wedding colors and where it might be held, it shouldn't consume our present.
Romance might not be right around the corner for you and me. We might still be one, two, five years from finding Mr. Right. However, the One, True Romancer of our souls is waiting for us to pick ourselves out of the self pity that often comes from being a hopeless romantic and discover that our opportunity to fall in love with Prince Charming is right in front of us. Right now.
Maybe we're not in a "relationship" right now because God wants to teach us something. And maybe it's not patience or perseverance or waiting on His timing. Maybe He is waiting for us to fall in love with Him. Girls, we can't hang all our hopes and dreams on finding that one man. Our hearts can be deceived and manipulated by feelings. That "one man" is not our salvation because our Savior has already come and is waiting to return.
Sure, it's hard to watch our peers falling in love and getting married. It's hard to see the wedding plans continue and the babies being born. This is not a time to gripe and complain to God. This is a time to celebrate our singleness.
Where is God going to take you, teach you, lead you during this time? We'll spend less time single then married and while finding that perfect man is at the top of all of our bucket lists, would you rather wait for the perfect man or settle for the first one that seems to fill the hole in your dreams?