A letter to my best friend sits not too far from my hand— with my answer to that question. The catalyst for this post. We have talked about marriage in our last few letters and our struggle on this journey.
Neither of us are married, but we have been raised in marriages that have stood the test of time for twenty years and better. We’ve seen the examples laid before us and we are reaching the pinnacle of our journey between single young woman and married wife.
No matter the cost, we are willing to wait for that “right moment”. But to wait is uncertain and can be plain aggravating.
I’m sure you’ve seen the pictures posted on the right hand side of this page. If not, take a moment and scroll down until you see the picture of purity and the golden heart.
It’s those promises I cling to.
Remaining pure in this world on any average day is not for the faint of heart. We have to reject the ads that barrage us and while the rest of the world fornicates amongst themselves, we must stand on the morals we have chosen.
Is it easy?
You can answer that one.
My friend and I often talk about our futures. How important it is we remain pure, because to do so, not only sets us apart in the world’s eyes, it gives us a higher standard to live by.
There is a freedom in obeying God’s commands. Of knowing we are residing in His perfect will.
We are also human and we fail. We let the enticing aromas of the promises just past our grasp tempt us to strain that much harder to take them. And we wonder… Why can’t I take this step?
The problem is: when you lower your standards and allow your purity to be trampled upon by the world, you open the door to that step that just gets easier and easier. If I date, why not kiss? Ignore the warnings bells clanging, what harm can it cause? If I kiss, why not sleep with him? Really, I think he’s the one. We don’t need a little gold band. If I sleep with him, why not move in together? We’ll get married soon.
Do you see what I’m saying?
It’s not just those high standards you need be held accountable for, it’s what’s right and good and true. Dwell on those things Philippians commands us.
It’s not for the faint of heart. This road isn’t easy. We can’t see the future; we only see the finite directly before our noses. What WE want to see. As we peer down the scope into the future, all we see is a blur. Not even color, just…
Which is why I have asked several of those gone before us to share their stories. Why THEY remained pure in a world barraging them to accept the least instead of striving for the best. Why THEY have been blessed by remaining fixed on those high standards, body, mind, heart and soul.
I pray this four part series will encourage you as it has me. Take heart!
The best is coming. Each day takes us closer.
You just have to be willing to WAIT for it.
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